Life can feel pretty chaotic. From the time you wake up till the time you go to bed, you are going pretty much non-stop with work, the kids, the home...aka Adulting.
Of course you have the best of intentions and want a strong marriage, but it feels like you have little left to give to your partner.
You're not only running on low energy but also a low "love account" because you aren't making very many love deposits each day. Even worse, you find yourselves making a lot of withdrawals, like: quick remarks, getting defensive, quick criticisms, and little affection.
If this imbalance of deposits to withdrawals goes on for too long, it leads to more reactivity, arguments that escalate more quickly, and feeling unappreciated by each other.
This can feel so discouraging because you know you're capable of being better for each other.